Bullying

Bullying and interpersonal violence is a critical topic to BStrong Together's mission.

Bullying is defined as “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.” (source: stopbullying.gov)

Bullying can be physical, verbal, and, with the increase in technology use and availability, electronic.  Bullying is a pattern of repetitive and deliberate behavior specifically designed to be harmful and humiliating, often directed at someone more vulnerable than the bully.

In November of 2020, BStrong Together continued our efforts to reduce bullying and interpersonal violence and to provide resources, tools and hope in our community by hosting a community screening of the IndieFlix documentary The Upstanders.  Following the screening, we hosted local area experts to talk about  the film, local anti-bullying efforts, tips for parents to raise upstanders, and resources for students and parents in the community. The expert panel discussions  were held in English and in Spanish.  View the video of the panel in English here or the panel in Spanish here. View The Upstanders Tips and Fact Sheet in English or in Spanish

In an effort to provide the most accurate and helpful information for parents and children, we will continue to update this page.  We hope that you find the resources below helpful.  Please check back often for more information.

** To address issues of bullying and interpersonal violence, Barrington High School introduced the Green Dot Program during the 2017-18 school year to all faculty and students.  Please find more information about the Green Dot Program at the link below. ***

WEBSITES

Green Dot, etc.
Green Dot, etc. is an evidence-based, comprehensive approach aimed at reducing multiple forms of interpersonal violence by capitalizing on the power of peer and cultural influences across all levels of the socio-ecological model.  The goal is for these groups to engage in a basic education program that will equip them to integrate moments of prevention within existing relationships and daily activities.

Stopbullying.gov
Stopbullying.gov is a federal government website managed by the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services. Find resources for parents, educators, students and communities on educating and preventing bullying & cyberbullying.

Common Sense Media – Cyberbullying, Haters and Trolls
videos, and articles to help with tough conversations — whether your kid is a bully or is being bullied. Common Sense Media answers all your cyberbullying questions, offers age-appropriate advice, school resources, and more from parents and experts.

A Platform for Good: How to Talk to Your Kids About Bullying
Helping kids to identify what is bullying and what just hurtful behavior.

Bucketfillers101.com
Resources and ideas for creating "bucket filling" schools, families, workplaces, and communities based on the book, "Have You Filled Your Bucket Today?" - a guide to daily happiness for kids.

 

BOOKS

Bullyproof Your Child for Life
by Joel Haber, Ph.D.
Haber is a pioneer in the field of bullying and after years of working with kids, teachers and parents to understand why kids bully. Read more…

Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear
by Carrie Goldman
Carrie Goldman became an unexpected voice for the anti-bullying movement after her blog post about her daughter Katie’s bullying experience went viral and an online community of support generated international attention.  Read more…

Queen Bees & Wannabes
by Rosalind Wiseman
When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees & Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls’ friendships and conflicts–from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another.   In this 3rd edition, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls, offering concrete strategies to help empower girls to be socially competent and treat themselves with dignity.

Masterminds & Wingmen
by Rosalind Wiseman
Author of the ground-breaking book about girls’ friendships and conflicts, Queen Bees and Wannabees, has tackled boy-world in her new book, Masterminds & Wingman.  Read more…

Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain
by Treavor Romain
Bullies are mean. Bullies are scary. Bullies are a pain in the brain—and every child needs to know what to do when confronted by one. This book blends humor with serious, practical suggestions for coping with bullies. Trevor Romain reassures kids that they’re not alone and it’s not their fault if a bully decides to pick on them. He explains some people are bullies and describes realistic ways to become “Bully-Proof,” stop bullies from hurting others, and get help in dangerous situations.  Read more…

Have You Filled Your Bucket Today?
by Carol McCloud
This best-selling, award-winning, 32-page picture book has become a basic teaching tool that encourages positive behavior as children see how very easy and rewarding it is to express kindness, appreciation, and love on a daily basis.  Learn about other “bucket filler” books & materials on their website, Bucketfillers101.com Read more…

The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander
by Barbara Coloroso
A respected educator with decades of experience in conflict resolution, Coloroso’s book was a groundbreaking book when originally written in 2003. This updated version includes a new section on cyber-bulling.  Read more…


Odd Girl Out
and Odd Girl Speaks Out
by Rachel Simmons
The national bestseller “Odd Girl Out” exposed a hidden culture of cruelty that had always been quietly endured by American girls. Rachel Simmons toured the country speaking to girls who found their voices and spoke to her about their pain. They wanted to talk – and they weren’t the only ones. Mothers, teachers, counselors, young professional women, even fathers, came to Rachel with heart-wrenching personal stories that could no longer be kept secret. Read more…

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The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander

A respected educator with decades of experience in conflict resolution, Coloroso's book was a groundbreaking book when originally written in 2003. This updated version includes a new section on cyber-bulling.

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence.  Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth, and her wide experience in the areas of conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, Barbara Coloroso explains:

  • The three kinds of bullying, and the differences between boy and girl bullies.
  • Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to bullying.
  • Seven steps to take if your child is a bully.
  • How to help the bullied child heal and how to effectively discipline the bully.
  • How to evaluate a school's anti-bullying policy.
  • And much more!

This compassionate and practical guide has become the groundbreaking reference on the subject of bullying.

About the Author

Barbara Coloroso is the author of the international bestseller Kids Are Worth It! and Parenting Through Crisis and is an acclaimed speaker on parenting, teaching, conflict, resolution, and grieving. Featured in Time, the New York Times, and on many radio and television shows, she lives with her husband in Littleton, Colorado.

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Bullyproof Your Child for Life

 

"Bully Coach" Joel Haber, Ph.D., is one of the foremost experts in the prevention of bullying. A pioneer in the field, he has worked with thousands of kids, parents, teachers, counselors, and others to understand the root causes of the bullying dynamic-from identifying bully types to exposing the reasons why kids become bullies, targets, or bystanders-and stamp it out once and for all. 

Delivering a practical, supportive, and step-by-step "bullyproofing prescription" that yields lasting results for both boys and girls, from grade school through high school, Bullyproof Your Child for Life offers specific action steps to help any child build resilience and confidence, develop compassion and trust, and thrive in school, camp, sports, and beyond. 

Empowering, instructive, and inspiring, this muchneeded guide will help parents detect the early signs of bullying and intervene-with lasting results.

Reviews

"Delivering a practical, supportive, and step-by-step "bullyproofing prescription" that yields lasting results for both boys and girls, from grade school through high school, Bullyproof Your Child for Life offers specific action steps to help any child build resilience and confidence, develop compassion and trust, and thrive in school, camp, sports, and beyond." - Amazon Review

"Empowering, instructive, and inspiring, this muchneeded guide will help parents detect the early signs of bullying and intervene-with lasting results."

About the Author

Joel Haber is one of the foremost experts in the prevention and treatment of bullying. A pioneer in the field, he has worked with thousands of kids, parents, teachers, counselors, and others to understand the bullying dynamic- why it occurs, why kids become bullies, targets or bystanders, and to develop a proven program to deal with this behavior. He has worked to help children and parents build resilience and confidence to thrive in school, camp, sports and find their way to deal with the newest bullying threat on the internet. As a Clinical Psychologist, he delivers a practical, supportive, step-by-step “bullyproofing prescription” that yields lasting results for both boys and girls, from grade school through high school, in his new book, Bullyproof Your Child For Life. As the bullying consultant to the American Camp Association, he leads popular workshops and conference sessions nationwide.  He has appeared on CBS News, NPR and ESPN radio, as well as numerous magazines, and a front page story in The New York Times.

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Eating Disorders & Disordered Eating

If you or someone you love is in need of support in the Barrington area,
contact AMITA Alexian Brothers Center for Eating Disorders at (855) 383-2224 for a free screening.

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According to the National Alliance for Eating Disorders, eating disorders are "psychological conditions that affect your relationship with food. Each one involves serious changes in your normal eating behavior. These changes can be actions like eating much less than normal, severely overeating,  engaging in harmful compensatory behaviors or having extreme obsessions about your body shape or weight. Eating disordersdo not discriminate based on age, gender, wealth, job status, sexual orientation, body shape and size, or race. They are capable of affecting anyone, and require ongoing support and, in some cases, medical treatment to recover from."

Some common types of eating disorders include: Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, Other Specified Feeding or Eating Disorder, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, and Pica.  Learn more about these different disorders here.

National surveys indicate that 20 million women and 10 million men will have an eating disorder at some point in their lifetime.

To address growing concerns, BStrong Together partnered with Dr. Lacey Lemke, Dr. Melissa Lukse, and Asiyah Roman from the AMITA Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital's Center for Eating Disorders and Christina Fitzgerald from Fitzgerald Nutrition to discuss disordered eating and eating disorders among youth in our community. View the program videos or listen to the entire podcast recording of the event - including the question and answer session - below.

CLICK HERE
Listen to the entire audio recording of Eating Disorders: Myths, Facts and the Benefits of Early Intervention in Disordered Eating, including the Q&A session.

 

Sometimes it is hard to know the difference between individual idiosyncrasies and when eating behavior becomes disordered or considered an eating disorder.  Learn more about those differences here.

Because early intervention increases the chance of recovery, it is important to know some of the warning signs and symptoms of an eating disorder. See resources and information below to help families who may be concerned about disordered eating or eating disorders in their family or have a loved one in recovery.  There is help and hope.

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Upcoming Events

Suicide Intervention and Prevention Training
Wednesday, May 4th
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What You Need to Know About Fentanyl

On September 27, 2021, the US Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) issued its first Public Safety Alert since 2015 to warn the American public of “the alarming increase in the lethality and availability of fake prescription pills containing fentanyl and methamphetamine. Fake prescription pills are widely accessible and often sold on social media and e-commerce platforms – making them available to anyone with a smartphone, including teens and young adults. These counterfeit pills have been seized by DEA in every U.S. state, and in unprecedented quantities.”

In response, the DEA launched the One Pill Can Kill campaign to educate the American public of the dangers of fentanyl.

Fentanyl is a powerful synthetic opioid that is 50 - 100 times stronger than morphine. While fentanyl can be prescribed by a doctor, synthetic fentanyl is now being illegally added to counterfeit pills, nasal spray and eye drops, or sold as a powder.

Synthetic opioids, including fentanyl, are the most common drugs involved in US overdose deaths. It is important to know the sign. The signs of an overdose from opioids like fentanyl include:

Learn more about the Facts About Fentanyl, What is a Fentapill, and more from the experts at Song for Charlie.

See resources below and watch our video presentation What You Need to Know About Fentanyl in partnership with Advocate Good Shepherd Hospital to learn more about the dangers of fentanyl and how to protect your child and others.

Resources

'1 pill can kill': Officials Warn About Fake Prescription Drugs Laced with Fentanyl (video)

What is Fentanyl from the National Institute on Drug Abuse

What Every Parent Needs to Know About Fentanyl

10 Signs Your Teen is Using Opioids

Buying Drugs Online – What You Should Know & How to Protect Your Kids

10 Strategies to Protect Your Young Person from Using Drugs

Tips for Teens

McHenry County Substance Abuse Coalition

Live4Lali - a local organization that works to reduce stigma and prevent substance use disorders among individuals, families, and communities. Services include overdose and harm reduction resources such as Narcan and fentanyl test strips.

 
If you are looking for help, visit:

Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration

SAMHSA National Helpline

Rosecrance                                           

Gateway

F.A.I.R Counseling

Family Recovery Centers

Hazelden/Betty Ford - Chicago location

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BStrong Together Run/Walk 2021

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Grab your family, grab your friends, and join BStrong Together for the 5th Annual Joe Kelsch Memorial Run/Walk to support children, youth and families throughout the Barrington area.

This year's virtual event means that you can participate anytime, anywhere and still make a difference.  So, make the race your own!  It’s simple – just lace up your shoes and run, walk, or even bike the 5k or 1-mile race anytime between September 25th – October 10th and submit your time.  A finisher medal will be mailed directly to you at the end of the race.

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25 Tips to Help Cope With Stress

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Handouts

BStrong Together creates many handouts to support learning and connection.  Click on the links below to download and print them to hang in your home or file them away as a helpful tool when needed.   

Top 10 Safety Tips for Parents During Prom & Graduation Season

Safe Party Tips Handout

Consejos para fiestas seguras (en Espanol)

May Mental Health Month Activities Calendar for Families (2022)

May Mental Health Month Flyer

50 Random Acts of Kindness Handout

50 Actos de Bondad (en Espanol)

Words Matter Family Activities (2022)

Sus Palabras Importan Hoy Y Todos las Dias (2022) (en Espanol)

Words Matter Reading List (2022)

Eating Disorders/Disordered Eating - Resources & Information

30 Days of Gratitude - November (2021)

25 Tips to Help Cope With Stress - Red & Black

25 Tips to Help Cope With Stress - Bright

25 Consejos para Ayudar a Sobrellevar el Estres (en Espanol)

Self-Care September Calendar for Tween & Teens (2021)

Self-Care September Calendar for Adults (2021)

Ten Tips to Support Mental Wellness (Back-to-School handout)

Diez Consejos para Apoyar el Bienestar Mental (en Espanol)

Tips for Talking With Kids About Difficult Topics

Youth Suicide: Know the Warning Signs and How to Help

Summer Reading List for Adults (2021)

Words Matter Family Activities (2021)

Words Matter Reading List (2021)

30 Days of Gratitude (2021)

Summer Reading List for Adults (2020)

Top Ten Ways Parents Keep Their Teens Alcohol & Drug Free

Family Tech Tips

Top Ten Safety Tips for Parents During Prom and Graduation Season

Underage Drinking and Illinois Social Hosting Laws

Tips for Safe Hosting

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