Talk With Your Kids About Drugs and Alcohol

Kindergarten – 3rd Grade

• Be open to questions that your child may have regarding alcohol, tobacco, or drugs. Explain what alcohol and drugs are, as well as the harm that they cause.
• Express strong family values and rules about alcohol and drugs.
• Have in-depth discussions with your child on a variety of subjects. This will lay the foundation for important discussions as they get older.
• Build trust so your child feels comfortable coming to you with problems and challenges that they face.

4th Grade – 6th Grade

• Be factual. Avoid exaggeration. Explain why some people use substances and explain the risks that they are taking.
• Explain how illegal drugs and alcohol adversely affect the developing brain.
• Give the facts and discredit the myths they will hear about alcohol and illegal drugs from peers, the media, and others.
• Rehearse potential scenarios in which friends may offer them drugs or alcohol. Prepare your child to handle difficult peer situations.  (See our strategies for how to say "No!" here.)

7th Grade – 9th Grade

• Kids at this age are curious about alcohol and drugs.  It is critical to provide them with factual information before they have the opportunity to experiment.
• Although teens may not show they appreciate it, parents profoundly shape the choices their children make about drugs and alcohol.
• Discuss the long-term effects that underage drinking has on brain development and the increased risk of life-long addiction tendencies.
• Practice role-playing. Prepare your teen to deal with situations where they might be confronted with alcohol or illegal drugs. (See our strategies for how to say "No!" here.)
• Help your child develop an exit plan for how to get out of a situation which makes them uncomfortable.  Create a code word or phrase that they can call or text you with so that you will know to come and get them.
• Reinforce family rules regarding underage drinking and illegal drug use.

10th Grade — 12th Grade

• Communicate that underage drinking and illegal drug use have serious and permanent consequences. Older teenagers are future oriented and more likely to respond to discussions about the ways in which underage drinking can affect getting into college, being accepted for a job, and increasing the risk of drug and alcohol dependency as an adult.
• Continue to review strategies for how to say "no" and their exit plan. Remind them that if they use the code word or phrase, either over the phone or via text, that you will come to get them. (See our strategies for how to say "No!" here.)
• Praise your older teen for all their healthy/positive choices. Encourage them for all the things they do well. Tell them how proud you are of them. Being appreciated by parents is highly motivating for teens to continue to make healthy choices.